THE TIME, JOB, AND HOUSE CHORES

1. Save the family time

One way a newly married couple can save time to spend with each other is by using the services available. The job and house chores are likely to consume much time and deny the couple time to get to know each other fast. Some couples may end up having a baby within a year’s time, and the babydemand more of the parents. 

2. The services

The services:avairable

1. The laundry service at the home or outside the home
2.  Have groceries and medicine delivered
3. Use cooking services. Make monthly menus. Have someone prepare food once a week and label each day’s menu in the freezer
4. The house and car cleaning service 
5. Homeschool the child
6. Let your money work for you not only do you work for money

III. Family time

The parents ensure the saved time from using services is used as follows:

1.  Couple spending time together before kids are born.
2.  Both parents spend time with the child once born. Watch TV together and other things with learning kid’s traits, likes, and behaviors. 
3. The time with the kid helps the parents pluck out the emerging bad character right away and shape the child on time. 
4. It is very necessary to correct your unhealthy behavior as a good example for the child. The baby has all the time to observe parents and absorb many things while you are busy and unaware. 
5. Worship God with the child if you are a worshipper
6. Homeschool kid at least up to high school. The parents are the first best child’s teacher. The parents and the kid benefit significantly from giving the child the best you desire. 
7. At least four hours spread over the day are enough for a formal class setting. The remaining time spent on extracurricular activities as you drive is accompanied by the child on highways, narrow roads. In the kitchen, bedroom, park, garden, grocery store, through watching TV, and listening to your conversations with the child, anywhere, and learn how the kid understands you and you know the child will capture and reason out things.
8. Expose the kid to online child’s educational resources.
9.  The things you teach count and will not repeat as the kids keep growing and knowing new things and guiding you on how fast they learn and understand.

IV. Away from home

Let your child go to college as you have established a stronghold in reasoning out, critical thinking, the safety of the surroundings, and choosing a healthy company. You have taught the kid:

1. The family values
2.  the decrees of God, 
3. how to live well, 
4. choose the right company
5. To behave (Exodus 18:20, NIV).  

V. Fundamentals

Teach the kid the fundamentals of the origin of humankind and God’s blessedness and command::

1. To be fruitful
2. To Multiply
3. To increase and fill the earth
4. To Subdue the earth
5. To Rule the fish of the sea, birds of the air, all creatures (Genesis 1:28, NIV).

VI. Character

To be fruitful, a person associates with:

1.  Capable people, 
2.  Fear God
3.  Trustworthy
4. Those who hate dishonesty gain (Exodus 18:21, NIV).

VII My time with Kids

Though in early life I worked as a babysitter, I missed the early life of our children since we both were busy working full time. We never recovered the children’s lost early lifetime. It is painful. It is like we died in their life. The housemaid reported the kids’ developments that occurred without our eyewitness. 

The fortune happened when we moved to the US, and could not afford a housemaid. I had spent time with children after losing eleven years of their lives. I happened to be with the children from elementary to high school. An excellent opportunity with kids to correct many things swept under the rug for a long time. I learned many things from our children that I would have missed. I had time to develop the mother/friend relationship and to ease my bossy mother attitude.

 The mother/friend relationship became a fundamental tool in their adulthood and lifetime. 

Trust and disclosure help between mother/children relationship. Whenever I have no answer to one of the questions, I research for a correct answer from relevant professional sources. I avoid giving biased irrational and emotional responses and vice versa for them to answer my questions.

VIII The mature Understanding.

My take here is the couple are experiencing each other in their new life together and the baby is new in the family and the three spent a lifetime learning and understanding each other. Each has a unique fingerprint and make or DNA. Spending time together and having open discussion or communication create friendship, trust, openness, working together with less stress for there is mature underlying of each other.