To build the bonds that are sure to last in a family, close the gap.
Each individual gets an expert to help to develop self-personality to a mature status to approach life rationally by:
- understanding self-personality if introvert or extrovert
- Know what stage of human life development one is
- State health: mental, physical, and emotional
- State of Faith in God, etc.
Family:
First, two persons or partners come together to start a family. If need be, the two may decide to have a baby. The two parties are strangers that grew up in different environments. The baby born from the relationship is a stranger and grows in a different setting, the womb. The three independent parties in a family- the father, mother, and the baby are strangers to one another.
Each has a unique schedule, feelings, and needs.
Things to do:
The two must be willing and ready to learn from one another.
The baby included in learning soon is born.
Appreciate the world views and conclusions of each other.
Be aware to curve down the fears being controlled by the other Honor everyone’s freedom and privacy. Each acknowledges the claims to know more than the other while agreeing to learn from each other.
The three must seek the lacking knowledge from the experts. Their understanding must be tested on what they know of the other.
They should observe their boundaries in their daily activities.
The guide to closing the gap between the two parties for marriage consider the spouse with likes to reduce stress and distress:
- faith
- careers
- values
- hobbies
- friends
- eating habits
- sleeping and waking patterns, etc
As first lovers, be a student of one another. The love is said to be blind.
- Know that love is a catalyst to initiate the move toward marriage but does not keep marriage lasting
- First, learn the things love hides from each other
- Get a professional marriage counselor to guides to manifest and discover unknown
- Commit a lasting friendship and everlasting marriage
- Note. If love dries off due to many factors unrelated to marriage, it happens to cause the marriage to end
- Commitment to maintaining to marriage houses many things to keep the marriage alive
To get the family working together, deliberately do the following:
- be friends with each other
- To dine together
- Have open discussion
- read the bible and pray together
- watching tv together
- Have free time to relax together
- Get free time for casual talking
- plan goals together
A baby born, make two married adjust the plan to include:
- Decide the number of babies expected to be born.
- The fetus menu incorporated in the mother’s diet soon, for example, from the Bible Judges 13:7, NIV.
- study fetus needs while in the womb and born
- internal- feeding and feeling of joy and relaxing of the baby and mother
- external prep for the baby accessories-bedroom, clothing, etc
- create friendship before and after the baby is born
- dining together
- open discussion
- reading bible together
- Watch kids’ TV cartoons together.
- Create free time to relax together and individually together with a casual talk.
- plan goals together
- Working in a high school of seven hundred students from grade ninth to twelfth grades plus two years more found that girls needed more attention than boys.